We often talk about baby development in terms of firsts — the first smile, the first laugh, the first step. But what’s just as significant, yet often overlooked, is the growth happening within the new parent. Moms and dads are reaching milestones of their own, navigating unfamiliar terrain and discovering who they are as caregivers.

As a perinatal psychotherapist specializing in postpartum mental health, one of the mantras I often share is: “When a baby is born, so is a parent.” The early parenting period is one of dual development, where both baby and parent are constantly learning, adapting, and evolving. Side by side, they are becoming new versions of themselves each and every day.

While there’s no step-by-step guide or one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, I encourage expecting and new parents to keep two core ideas in mind:

1. You’ll Learn as You Go — And That’s Okay

Parenting is “on-the-job” learning. From feeding to soothing, each day involves trial, error, and adjustment. Feeling uncertain is normal.

When parents question themselves or feel overwhelmed, I remind them of a very important truth: Just like babies learning to roll over or a child learning to ride a bike, mastering new skills takes practice. 

Tip: Give yourself grace. No one becomes an expert parent overnight. Similar to the gradual development we see in babies and children, your parenting skills will grow with time, practice, and support. Ask for help when you need it.

2. Celebrate Your Wins

Unlike the loud applause for a baby’s first steps, parents’ milestones often go unnoticed. But your first time soothing your baby, managing a diaper blowout in public, or surviving a sleepless night — those are accomplishments!

Tip: Take a moment to notice your progress. Tell your partner, text a friend, or jot it down in a journal. Type it in an email you’ll share with your little one when they’re older. These small victories build your confidence and strengthen your bond with your child. Be proud of what you’ve achieved and how far you’ve come in your — and your child’s – journey. 

Parenting isn’t about perfection — it’s about being present, growing alongside your child, and navigating the ups and downs.

Let’s celebrate — and support — the shared journeys of parents and children. In every stage, in every step, they’re learning how to walk on their own paths, together.